"Dirty" vs. "Clean" Communication
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Image: Boston, MA at night. (Stock Image, obviously. LOL.)
ALL Human Communication has TWO MAIN GOALS:
To be understood by the RECIPIENT.
To make the EMITTER/SPEAKER/WRITER/ACTOR etc. FEEL confidant, comfortable, positive, good somehow in the communication of the message.
Communication is like a:
Image: Clean, flowing river of crystal-clear communication that leaves the RECIPIENT satisfied somehow.
Key Distinctions to Keep In Mind for Creating Crystal Clear Communication in ANY HUMAN LANGUAGE:
“DIRTY” communication is/contains:
Does not flow well AS you are creating it in the present moment (Spoken/Written/Acted Out/Performed in person, remotely, in a hand-written letter or email or digital chat.)
Leaves the Creator of the Communication FEELING DOUBT of some kind: (icky, smarmy, unsure feeling, lack of confidence in one’s own words or body language, wondering not in a good way “Did what I just say, emoted, wrote LAND with the RECIPIENT? Was it clear? Or was it MUDDLED/DIRTY somehow?”
Cleaning up “DIRTY” communication is NOT about PERFECTION. This is impossible. Why?
Because the TRUE NATURE of all human communication in ANY form is SPONTANIETY.
Example: When you go to a PARTY with FRIENDS, do you PLAN OUT what you are going to SAY to people at the Party? God, I hope not. LOL. That would be weird, even for Substack. (Ba-dum tsssss….)
How to “CLEAN UP” “DIRTY” communication:
First off: Why all the “AIR QUOTES”? —> That is to DEMONSTRATE CLEARLY that the method described here on Pick’s Perspective on Substack is NOT PRETENDING TO BE the EXCLUSIVE or BEST communication method in the history of Humanity.
Why is this important? —> Because NO ONE owns language. Anyone who claims to have “THE PRIMIER” communication method in any language anywhere on Earth is probably a CON ARTIST. :) That’s why. It’s an IMPOSSIBLE claim to make that essentially means “Hey… I am some GURU who knows every last tip and trick about Human Communication, Writing, Film-Making, etc.”
Which is BS, so….
Now that we’ve cleared that up….
What is CLEAN communication, according to our team over here in Boston, MA?
Clean communication = FLOWS SMOOTHLY LIKE THE NICE RIVER IN THE PICTURE
Not like the CHARLES RIVER IN BOSTON.
Image: Dirty Charles River water in Boston being used to brew beer. Hard pass for me, everyone. But have it. Gross.
Image: Signage depicting the title of the famous song “Dirty Water” Boston, MA, USA is known for around the world.
Image: Spotify Link so you can listen to song in case you never heard it before. It’s ICONIC in Boston and if you ever visit, you can go to a Red Sox game at Fenway and see this happen:
Image: When the Red Sox wins, this happens. Boston is a city full of PRIDE because people here of all walks of life share a WORK HARD/PLAY HARD mentality and we are VERY GOOD at seeing past things like race, color, gender, and socioeconomic class.
Why is this the case? Boston is a GLOBAL PORT CITY, but also geographically very small. So to Boston Natives like me, it kind of feels like “we all went to high school together.""
Real life example: I was a CEO of a translation company for 15 years.
The other day, my friend Greg came over my house to have a whiskey in the jacuzzi with me.
I’ve known Greg for 27 years.
Greg is a JANITOR. :)
I’d rather spend my PRIVATE TIME at home with him than half the executives I’ve ever met in Boston b/c in my own personal opinion, they have PERSONALITIES LIKE BURNT TOAST.
(To me, they are ZERO FUN socially to spend time with is what I am saying, which is NOT a form of Bias for a 46 year old white male because we ALL get to Pick our Friends.)
Get it? Pick :)
Look over there… Squirrel…
Image: Sparky the Boredom Distraction Squirrel Strikes Again!
So back to the Communication “Lesson”….
GOOD CLEAR communication can SEGUE EASILY. Like I just did.
GOOD CLEAR communication is not PRESCRIBED: There is NO SUCH THING as a FIXED PERMANENT METHOD that works AUTOMATICALLY FOR ALL.
GOOD CLEAR communication flows smoothly BECAUSE IT IS IMPERFECT.
The RECIPIENT of GOOD CLEAR COMMUNICATION feels:
Seen
Respected
Heard
Honored as an INDIVIDUAL HUMAN BEING with their own LIFE/IDEAS/PERSPECTIVE
One KEY REASON social media like LinkedIn and Facebook are FAILING all over the world is this:
You can’t learn JACK SHIT from LOOKING AT SOMEONE’S PROFILE, which is one of the MAIN POINTS of SUBSTACK being in EXISTENCE.
So if that was UNCLEAR to anyone, now it’s NOT.
Why should you listen to ME?
LOL, silly… read my RESUME:
NATIVE-LEVEL FLUENCY in ENGLISH, SPANISH and BRAZILIAN PORTUGUESE AT DOCTORAL STUDY LEVEL
14 YEARS A HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER
20+ YEARS COMBINED BUSINESS AND CORPORATE MANAGEMENT EXPERIENCE
I’m one HECK of a nice guy in person and my political views are MY OWN, like anyone else has. Not my fault I KICK ASS at articulating them :)
Disclaimer: I am not some GURU. I don’t want FOLLOWERS. LOL.
If I am TRYING to do ANYTHING here it’s this:
Share about the subjects I LOVE in my OWN UNIQUE WAY.
Backstory Reminder:
I was once invited to be a TEACHER at the GLOBALLY RENOWED Belmont Hill School, pictured here:
Image: Belmont Hill School’s campus, about a 10 minute drive from where I am sitting right now. Is that Harry Potterish enough for you, Substack? LOL.
See that guy in the brown shirt and tie? That could have been me, but I said NO THANKS to the job offer because my 2 DISABILITIES prevent me from being an EFFECTIVE in-person classroom teacher at an ILLUSTRIOUSLY expensive private school like this where the Literal Children of World Leaders are EDUCATED TO DOMINATE the planet.
So, instead of help these OVER-PRIVILEGED BOYS who don’t need ANY HELP AT ALL….
I figured since my own personal life is “ALL SET” (as we say in Boston), meaning my family and I want for nothing and won’t want for anything ever again….
I might as well hang out here with
and and and and some other WICKED AWESOME humans I’ve meet since I’ve joined three weeks ago.So, what IS “Pick’s Perspective”? It’s just that.
It’s the perspective of a dude who is, in real life, a lot like this guy you’ve seen in movies:"
Image: ME if I had been ABLE to work at The Glorious Belmont Hill School, one of the FINEST All Boys’ Prep School on EARTH. (Sigh…)
Why didn’t I just take the job and TRY?
Because it’s UNETHICAL to take a job you KNOW you cannot do.
The Head Master (Name Left Out On Purpose) was VERY kind and said “Pick, we BELIEVE in you, man. C’mon…. We NEED you to teach these boys…”
I said: “Sir… my own PERSONAL INTEGRITY won’t allow me to accept this role. Your offer to ANY MALE TEACHER is like getting offered a job to be the CEO of Google if one were a IT Guy at any corporation, but I KNOW MYSELF, sir, at age 46, and given PTSD and Bipolar Disorder, it would not be RIGHT for me, the school, or the boys to have me in the classroom…”
And I hung my head in SHAME and Embarrassment in front of this VERY nice Educational Leader, the Headmaster of Belmont Hill School.
And I started SOBBING.
Like a BABY.
Because that would have been my DREAM JOB after having been CEO of a fully remote translation company….
But it was NOT TO BE….
The Head Master saw the BOY in the MAN in front of him.
He is a man of maybe 70, about my Dad’s age.
He said “It’s OK Pick… You are one of the BEST TEACHERS of SPANISH AND PHILOSOPHY in our country by my estimation and I KNOW you will find something else….”
And then someone told me about SUBSTACK. (I can’t even remember who, because it was THREE WEEKS AGO - LOL)
and then I met
…And he lives in AUSTRALIA….
And he is a man about my age, I estimate. Maybe a bit younger or older… It does not matter…
And he is a BUSINESS COACH, so we made an International Substack Broship
And THAT is what made me DECIDE TO STAY HERE
And WORK FOR FREE
TO HELP YOU LOVEABLE GOOFBALLS
to achieve your dreams any way I can, remotely from my home office in Boston, MA
Which, because of my two disabilities, PTSD, and Bipolar is the ONLY PLACE I AM MEDICALLY FIT TO WORK for the REST OF MY LIFE.
So, why do I HATE DONALD TRUMP?
LOL…
Do you have to ASK?
The JACKASS was talking about CANCELLING REMOTE WORK…
Where would that leave ME PERSONALLY?
Yeah…..
I know…..
Trump’s a DOUCHE and so is everyone who loves him more than they love JESUS CHRIST, their supposed Lord and Savior.
I am a Republicans worst NIGHTMARE. LOL.
So I don’t expect ANY to show up for class because I teach and talk to people who want to BE LEADERS
As my JOB at Belmont Hill would have been IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS to TRAIN THE CHILDREN OF WORLD LEADERS :)
Imagine ME vs BARRON TRUMP.
Image: Hahahahaha. Nice vampire face, dickwad.
See, you NEED to have people like me (Middle Class origin men to TRAIN these little soulless vampire shitwagons so they don’t DESTROY THE WORLD MORE than they already HAVE… on BOTH SIDES OF THE POLITICAL SPECTRUM.)
So that’s it.
Come to Pick’s Perspective Often for Free Takeaways From a View from a Man who has been both at the BOTTOM and the TOP of the world.
I am going to sit at my keyboard and play the RANDOM WRITING PIANO for you from here. (That’s my end of the deal.)
Image: My buddy’s $20,000 piano he can play like I can type. Nice, right? I tried to touch it once. He has Autism. Known him 20 years. He almost bit my hand. I was like “Have a shot, dude.” (Of whiskey. He drinks. I don’t. I don’t NEED ALCOHOL to be CREATIVE. [wink])
YOU are gonna read what I write, receive ZERO homework, ZERO lectures, ZERO grades on anything at all. YOU are going to maybe comment once in a while and my promise, if we INTERACT DIRECTLY is to speak/behave in a KIND, PROFESSIONAL MANNER.
OBVIOUSLY the RANT PORTION of this Substack page is CONTROLLED.
And one day, my OWN PERSONAL CREATIVE GOAL is to become a FULLY REMOTE, FULLY DISABLED DIRECTOR OF MOVIES, of either SMALL, LARGE, or MEDIUM ticket revenue volume.
For me personally, the outcome does not matter because what SUBSTACK means to me is a place to come and RELEASE THE CREATIVE ENERGY I would have if I had been ABLE to be a TEACHER at the ILLUSTRIOUS BELMONT HILL SCHOOL where so many people just wouldn’t be able to get in and then all the teachers there would get called “ELITIST” by half the country.
So, LOL.
Guess that bubble’s been burst for everyone who read this and I will see you all next time, right here at PICK’S PERSPECTIVE,
The most Private-Public, Transparently Strange Jaunt into Education The world has ever seen.
How do know that’s TRUE?
Cuz I just fucking made it up….
That’s what CREATIVITY is, you jackwagons.
MAKE IT UP AS YOU GO ALONG AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT EVERY DAMN THING UNDER THE SUN.
Peace and axle grease,
Image: Special thanks to Amina Nahabet, BOARD MEMBER of the BELMONT HILL SCHOOL and MY SECOND MOM IN LIFE who I have known personally since I was six years old in 1984 for PERMISSION to discuss MY BELMONT HILL INTERVIEW EXPERIENCE while using BRANDED MATERIAL. Amina’s the best. XOXO. (Thanks Mom #2. Love you. Miss you. Call you soon.)
Amina’s Old Home. She no longer lives there. 22 Surrey Road Winchester MA 01890 where I went when my own Mom was so DRUNK she was screaming at me while I was trying to do my homework. Then when I was 17 My Birth mother tried to drown me. It’s fine. I’m over it b/c of Amina and her son and also had some great therapy a long time ago.
Cheers,
Pick :)
This was a wild, generous, and deeply human ride, Pick. Your mix of grit, clarity, and lived experience makes every lesson land harder and truer. Grateful for the honesty, and the river analogy? Pure gold.